The way we communicate with ourselves can have a big impact on the way we process our behaviors and emotions. Many of us are prone to automatically assume the worst or talk to ourselves in ways we wouldn’t expect ourselves to talk about others. However, there is evidence to support that changing your language and using positive self-talking points can lead to an increase in mood and self-esteem. Some of the health benefits of positive self-talk include:


  • Increased life span
  • Lower rates of depression
  • Lower levels of distress
  • Greater resistance to the common cold
  • Better psychological and physical well-being
  • Better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
  • Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress


By changing the way you talk to yourself, you may notice over time a more positive outlook on both yourself and your worldview. Eventually, positive self-talk can become automatic! Recognizing negative self-talk is the first step to overcoming it. Here are some examples of negative self-talk and how you can change these phrases to reshape your views on a circumstance or situation into a more positive experience.


Negative: I’m a total failure.

Positive: I might not be good at some things, but there are a lot of things I am good at.


Negative: Everybody hates me because I’m annoying.

Positive: I can’t please everybody in the world; I am who I am and plenty of people can appreciate that.


Negative: I’m a burden and letting everyone down.

Positive: I am loved and the people who truly care about me want to help me.


Negative: I’m so dumb, I can’t believe I failed that test.

Positive: Life is full of missteps; maybe next time I can find a new study routine that works better for me.


Try it out! Next time you catch yourself talking negatively to yourself take a moment to consider the situation and how you can shift your view to a more positive and helpful way of thinking. You’ll likely find that, over time, your overall outlook might just become more optimistic!